The current conception of the ideal is to have the perfect day where you can speak, do, think and act from your highest
potential of who you are. Sounds good to me! We try our best to be patient with situations, tolerate difficult people, go the extra mile to get work accomplished and then from nowhere comes the hit. It can be a phone call that changes your life forever, your company’s paycheck bounces, your company downsizes, your client doesn’t pay, your spouse leaves you a goodbye message via text–no less, or you or someone you love is given a diagnosis that cannot be cured. These curves sometimes come when we are at our happiest or in a position to believe that everything is great. Planning for the future is fine. Making plans for three years from now is terrific and the new house you purchased will be your dream house.
We all live a life as best we can but so many of us, particularly in these trying times and Chinese year of the red fire monkey know that our lives are downright tough. Our jobs don’t pay as well as they once did, some of us now work two or three jobs to survive, the one you love and can’t live without is dying of cancer or Parkinson, your child has a terrible auto accident, the dream house is now in foreclosure and there appears to be no remedy.
There is something transforming about being in hell and then leaving it. Somehow, we do leave it. We are never the same. There is a strange alchemy that takes place in hell. It changes base metal into gold. We have an understanding of life that was never there before. We don’t take things for granted anymore. We don’t talk about the same things anymore in the same way. We have been refined. We have survived and we know somehow we are returning to something that is different and approached from a completely new level. Our eyes have seen the horror and witnessed our own survival. We look at things in a more objective way, we know now that we were never really in control. We know now that we really were players in a scene and that we were actors playing our parts. We have developed wisdom, patience and a sense of just living in the now. The future will be there whether we are in it or not. We stop chasing after worthless activities and we stop worrying about things we can do nothing about and, for the most part, either happen organically or don’t happen at all.
We know we are still standing and we can choose again. “Even though I walk through the valley of death, I will fear no evil”. Keep walking, we were always made to move forward.