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Memories–It’s that time of year!

This is one of the most sensitive times of the year when most of us flash back to Christmas past and childhood memories both sweet and bitter sweet.  We miss those who can’t be there and remember things from childhood that seem to morph into interpretations embellished over time.  I can still remember how tall my dresser was and that I couldn’t reach the top where the nail polish sat.  I remember trying to see through the wrapping paper to guess what was hidden beneath.

I miss so many people who have left my life and can never spend Christmas with me again–or birthdays or just a cup of coffee.  We all have a treasure of memories that come flooding back over this time of year.  I can still remember getting a fresh orange in my stocking and fresh whole walnuts.  This really dates me, but living in New York and of another era, fresh oranges were special and so were walnuts.  Now we eat all over the place and hardly any food is rare. People walk and eat and drive and eat and oranges are a few dollars a bag.

But the holidays remain special.  It’s as if we save this time of year to wander through our memory banks and it is good we do.  It’s good to take a look at our lives and feel the emotions left behind from people who have been special in our lives.  Some of these are painful.  My father was buried on Christmas Eve and this is the first Christmas since my son died.  There have been happy holidays as well.  They all seem to fit in a rich tapestry of a life spent here on earth.

Allow yourself time to process the holidays.  Enjoy the time as best you can.  All things pass and this Christmas holiday will pass as all of them have.  It is good to know we have lived, we have loved, we were loved, are loved and care.  If time and/or money permit, help someone else this holiday season.  Above all else, forgive yourself and those whom you may feel may have wronged you.  Pay your good fortune of being alive forward and in advance.

8 responses to “Memories–It’s that time of year!”

  1. Ann says:

    Thank you for you recent post, many blessing to you and your family and may the New Year bring you joy
    And happiness to new beginning . May loved ones we have lost along the years be present in spirit . God Bless..

  2. Caroline says:

    Best wishes to a lovely friend and
    Mentor. This will be a difficult time
    For you, but your son’spirit lives on in all the wonderful work you do. We have stayed home this Xmas and I feel I have done more for others in and around my communuty than in past yrs. A good feeling if helping others and paying it forward. Our love to you for a blessed holiday

  3. Gail says:

    It is wonderful to hear from you all. Many thanks for your comments. May we all try to remember that we are all of the same star dust.

  4. Soni Foley says:

    I agree with every comment made here.
    You are a treasure. Blessings to you!

  5. Vikki says:

    Gail, As always, a loving and giving message that we can all resonate with and use. Thank you for giving of yourself all year long and being a beacon for others. Wishing you peace, love, and joy!

  6. Karen says:

    Very beautiful Gail. Much love to you especially as you go through this first holiday season without your son. I have lost many loved ones through the years and I have been remembering how special they made the holidays. I’m so thankful for all of them. I only know that although all loss is hard, the hardest loss would be to lose a child. May your son’s spirit show up in ways this holiday season that touches your heart in the most loving way. With much love and blessings for you.

  7. Jane says:

    Love and much appreciation, dear Gail, for all you give to so many, for your inspiration and guidance. Many blessings and our love, from all in Montgomery, Texas!

  8. Jan says:

    Lovely thoughts, Gail. Thank you….and many blessings to you during this holiday season.

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